To make certain determinations and resolutions at the arrival of New Year is such a normal trend. Everybody wants to improve his routine life, everybody knows what wrong in going on and everybody further knows that if he determines to change certain attitudes, his life will improve and hence almost every second person resolute at the new year eve, to change himself and to improve. Than comes the part when he realizes that he fell back into most of his old habits by the January 15th, he almost forgets his resolution and gives up on them.
Thus, the trouble for an average man is not that he neglects the importance of making resolutions; rather it is that he makes too many resolutions. He becomes so habitual at making resolutions that he is forever forgetting and breaking them and again making resolutions afresh, again to break them.
Every time one gets late at office, he determines to get early next day. He sees himself getting up early at 7, dressing easily, enjoying breakfast with no hurry, no irritation, no fear that he may miss the Bus and he realizes that it is not so difficult to manage his time well, that he can resolute to overcome his habit of getting late. Obviously, he knows his imperfections and he knows how to perfect them.
Yet, he fails to remember his resolution for long. Soon he gets busy in the daily office routine. A number of things occupy his attention and his resolution temporarily drops out of his mind. By evening, he gets an idea to spend a little time at the dance bar. He suddenly remembers that he has resolved to not get late to office next day, yet the temptation of little pleasurable time tends him to go to the bar with his friends and have some drinks. He again resolute to not to take more than two drinks, he determines he will return to his home at most by 9 p.m. Again, in the friendly environment, when one of his friends offers another drink after the first two, he forgets his resolution, accepts one more, and enjoys a little more time at the bar. At last, he finds himself at his home at 11p.m, obviously late. He again tries to keep his resolution stern and decides he will sleep as early as 12a.m. After finishing his dinner, he open up the television set to listen the news headlines, determined to sleep as early as possible, yet his fingers wanders at the remote and after noticing the news headlines, he turns to some music channel to enjoy a little romantic slow melody, or may be some hard rock before he may fell asleep. At 1.30a.m, he realizes that he is again late and he gets frustrated, cursing himself, he enters his bed.
Next morning, the alarm clock warns him at 7a.m, he gets up, angry, resentful against the alarm he himself had set. He knows he had resolved to get as early as 7 a.m. Yet his body does not respond to the eagerness to keep up his resolution and he switches off the alarm and sets it again to 7.30a.m. By 7.45a.m, he gets out of his bed, again hurried and frustrated, he knows he has to hurry otherwise he will miss the local Bus his office. His body again is slow to respond to the mental eagerness to keep up with resolution to not to get late. By 8a.m, he still has to take bath and take his breakfast and by 8:30a.m, he realizes that he is again set to get late. All this making and breaking of such resolutions keeps adding up his frustrations and he fells in a trap where he finds himself unable to control his own accords, he realizes he is lacking will-power and than he resolute again, to never to make a resolution.
It is not the issue whether resolutions helps of improves someone, or they causes further frustrations, it is also very subjective whether to say that making too many resolutions is wrong or bad.
The only thing that is beyond any doubts is, if one makes a resolution, he needs to keep up with his resolve. There should be an insistence that if one makes a resolve it should be carried out. To make a resolve and break it demoralizing and it obviously fills one with further frustrations and complex characteristics. There should be no exception at keeping up with one’s own resolution. No matter nobody knows about your resolution, no matter even God will ever come to know that you broke your resolution, you would know it, you will realize that you fell weak you cheated yourself and that becomes a cause for you to loose faith in yourself. Next time whenever you realize any imperfection, any fault in yourself, you fear to make a resolve; you lack faith that you may better yourself. On the other hand, if you succeed in keeping up with even a single resolution you have made, it increases your self-confidence, your inner strength. You feel empowered, ready to take further chances, alert to improve further. Keeping up with a resolution enriches your capability to desire more, it increases your faith in yourself, your will-power.
Overall, it can be said that one should make fewer resolutions, and one should try his best to keep up his resolution. That is, one should be very choosy about making a resolution. Before making a resolution, ask whether you are serious at executing it, examine it dispassionately. Consider not only the advantages of keeping up such a resolution, but also the disadvantages of keeping up that resolution. Weigh the advantages and disadvantages of committing yourself to a resolve selfishly and thoroughly. As for example, if you resolve to get early in morning at 7a.m, consider the sacrifice of loosing the sleep of end leisurely moments. If you are habitual to remain in bed until quarter to 8a.m, you are doing so because there are some advantages. Balance those advantages to the advantages of getting up at seven. You may find out that it is a deal of loss to get up at 7a.m, that to enjoy a little more sleep is much more beneficial than the little relaxation time you will get if you get up at 7a.m, and than you may decide to resolve to get up at 7.30a.m, as that would not only allow you to enjoy the little more early morning sleep, but also, it will let you have 15 minutes extra to get ready to your office. By weighing each of such facets of a resolution before committing to it, you will certainly reach to a conclusive pattern that would allow you to loose least of your pleasures and gain most of the advantages of improving your habits.
That is, before committing to a resolution, one needs to weigh and value all the advantages and disadvantages of keeping up with that resolution. His judgement should be specifically selfish, fulfilling his most important needs and desires. Once a person commits himself to a resolution that is certainly going to be beneficial for him and he realizes whatever little he will have to loose to keep up that resolution is certainly not of that importance and value to that of the advantages of keeping up with the resolution, he finds himself in a better position to keep up with his resolution and increase his self-confidence, his moral and faith.
Conclusion: Resolutions are obviously made to improve oneself and to denounce the imperfection. To make a resolution hence, is a very selfish act and one need to be careful that he may be able to keep up with his resolutions without any exception. If one fails to weigh the advantages and disadvantages of executing a resolution, he often tends to break the resolution at any moment he realizes that to keep the resolution is not as beneficial as to break it. That certainly demoralizes him and forces him to further his distress. Ultimately, the same resolution that he pursued to improve himself becomes the cause of his lack of self-confidence and demoralization. One should be very cautious and selfishly profit-loss calculative before committing himself to a resolution, to commit to a resolution hence, is obviously a very selfish act meant to improve oneself.