People use Flattery and Manipulation to get what they want.
This is something I just do not do. It is manipulative. I do see it happen in life though.
Flattery and Manipulation
Let’s say there is a woman who wants a man, but he is involved or some such thing. She will look for “problems” and study the man closely. Look for his needs and then “create” herself to fit the bill. or she will show her wounds of past and will try to gain his sympathy and trust.
She will play these weaknesses and then pull out all stops by stroking his ego.
He falls for it..hard. Oh my, what a buffoon. I cannot respect men who fall prey for that type of game. It does not show me a dominant or more importantly a person who does not have confidence in himself.
So, if this happens to you, then you did not have a quality man to begin with..so no big loss.
A woman is successful at her job and generally well liked, but there will always be people who are jealous of her success. Perhaps, they are not competant at their own jobs, or they just jealous people who possess a vicisous natures.
So, in order to undermine the successful person they start a pernicious gossip, trying to ally various others to going against her. Some sadly will jump on the bandwagon and start to subtely rally against her. Sometimes, some manipulations are brought up the boss. If she or he is a weak character, he or she will fall prey.
Basically, what you have going on is bad office politics.
Can you see how vile this is all? When people are jealous of what others have instead of working hard to attain something for themselves, they have to take it from others in means necessary.
Keep yourself clear of this bullshit, do not attack them, but wait for the right time to make your kill of exposing them.
Pick your battles.
You know, truth does have a way of coming out evening, keep doing behaviour that has integrity and get out situations that are potentially damaging.
Let them sink themselves.
Yes, and I do sound judgemental. So what!
I mean we become people who turn a blind eye towards bad behaviour and never call them on it. Too bad that some never feel guilt or shame for their wrong doing..perhaps that is why they keep doing it..nothing clicks on in their conscience.
Not sure how they sleep at night and how they can look at themselves. Trust me, when you shine the mirror on them, they are going to hate you.
Such is the price of truth when dealing with people of that ilk.
Steps off my soapbox…enjoys my cup of TajMahal Tea!