ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆಂದರೆ ಜ್ವಾಲಾಮುಖಿಯಲ್ಲ,
ಬೆಳಕ ನೀಡುವ ಅಂತರ್ ಜ್ಯೋತಿ

ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆಂದರೆ ಗಿಜಿಗುಡುವ ಜನಜಂಗುಳಿಯಲ್ಲ,
ಶಾಂತಿ ಸಾರುವ ಬೆಟ್ಟದ ತಪ್ಪಲು

ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆಂದರೆ ಸುಖದ ಅಮಲು,
ಹೂವಿನಾ ಗಮಲು, ಕಾರಣ ನಗಲು

ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆಂದರೆ ಎಲ್ಲವೂ,
ಎಲ್ಲದೊರಳೊಗಿನ ಎಲ್ಲವೂ ಪ್ರೀತಿಯೆ

The love itself is a non selfish. It is the ray of hope for one who lost hope in life. It is the happiness, It is everything. We the new generation are behind the money, dignity, status, wealth and behind all which are dead and don’t give not even a little bit satisfaction.
In love we will get everything,
If you say love as a poison, and
I say we need it to make the anti venom.
If you say love as a selfish, and
I say we need it to make the whole world live with peace. If you say its all waste of time, and
I say we need it to show why we need the time.
If you say believe a snake but not a love, and
I say We need it to take a love as option to die
rather than to die with the snake bite.

Love is a god, whether it is the first love or last love , love everybody, atleast love somebody, make your heart less weight, and you light weight.

She did teach me the love lesson, who is ten years younger than me in age, but 1000 years elder than me in love. I am first standard still, but she is Ph.d even though she failed her exam in a school.

Any how I love myself, I love her, I love everyone, I love my country, I love the whole universe. As a Human, it is my responsibility to love.

ILoveU

dictionary definition: Selfless – “putting other people’s needs first”

Whenever the man will get the right person to admire and appreciate, he will appreciate and feel his emotional love and needs be fulfilled by that other person. its not necessary he may ever come in relation with that other person, but he will admire him more than the girl with whom he is forcibly attached and not by will.

Anyways, I am sure I answered this question already in the original post.

Please have a look at it again, it says–

One falls in love with the personification of the values that formed a person’s character, which are reflected in his most important goals or not-so-noticeable gestures, which create the style of his soul—the individual style of a unique, unrepeatable, matchless perception. We select the person, and we chose him. Our own sense of life and existence makes it possible for us to choose our friends, our love-mate, our partners.
If love is blind, if love can be just selfless, something, which we cannot discriminate for, which, we can squander along with all equally, than why doesn’t such love stay? As soon as we come to realize that the person we mistakenly fell in love with, is wrong, undeserving, corrupt or mischievous, we start feeling repulsion.
We may make mistakes in choosing the right friends, lover, mates; we commit various mistakes in emotional recognition because the sense of existence, the sense of our own most loved values is not a cognitive guide. Yet, we keep evaluating the person. We keep rationalizing, we use mind to find out if the sudden sort of love we feel for a person is right or not right, if the person deserves it or he does not.

The man may try to provide an environment where the girl may reach her own existence. Objectivism cannot be taught or indoctrinated. People need to use their own mind by their own self. No one can force someone to use mind and rationalize things and activities, at least not an Objectivist can force anyone. Liberty means non-aggression, non-indoctrination. He may argue, he may discuss and debate on various issues putting up various reason. But it depends on how much he values the girl. Is she worth investing time? If she worth it, he will invest his time on her, otherwise, he will either accept her as an obligation unworthy, or he will leave her.

One more thing, if the person is getting involved with a girl just because of his unreasonable sexual compulsions, than it signifies that his ability to act reasonably was weak. And thus, the suffering of an unwanted relation for him becomes his punishment.

if sexual compulsions are so strong over reason, than what will stop him from raping the girl if she is not ready for sex?

So basically the person you are talking os can never be Objectivist if he is falling for just sexual compulsions.

yes he may change and become a rationalist an objectivist later on. In your story, none is objectivist, neither girl nor man.

But why are we discussing this?

Why not consider this, a Judge has to decide a criminal case of rape. The accused rapist is his own son, and the accuser is the daughter of his rival, his enemy.

What should the judge do? Should he help the girl gaining justice? Or should he help his son to ditch justice and be freed inspite of being the criminal?

a> if the judge gives proper justice, it means he is selfish enough towards his ethics, morals and justice to give up is love for his own son.

b> If the judge falls for love of his son, and denounces law, helps his son to get rid of charges, it means he is selfish, and he values his love for his son more than His duty, his ethics and morals and justice.

In both cases, the judge is selfish, and in both cases judge evaluates his love for different sets. An Objectivist is the first one, because he goes for reason he promotes the objectivity of rights and justice.
In second case, the judge is subjective. he changes his morals and ethics and right of justice with situation., if in palce of his son, some other person have been accused, the judge might have given right justice morally.

Yet you are proving my point in every essence of it. There is no mystery in selfishness, it is a fact of life. Without being selfish, life cannot sustain.

Although I can agree that some are unable to understand what life is, and they term it mystery. Coincidentally, many fails to understand quantum mechanics too, and they call it mysterious too.

it is your problem if you cannot explain even a single instance of your life when you were not selfish(except when you are unconscious or you are dead). Still you if you wanna claim that your love is NOT selfish or not-so-selfish love, than keep loving not-selfishly and try to understand what do you really mean to say when you say you love but its not selfish love? that you love someone, but it is not you who gains anything from loving a person? No gain no satisfaction, no feeling of pleasure, no feeling of worth. Yet you love them irrespective of the fact that they propagates nothing which is valuable for you. You love them irrespective of the fact that they provide you no satisfaction, no pleasure, no feeling of goodness no calmness.

I simply cannot love like that I value I love my sense of existence (selfishness) much more than anything else.

When I say i love someone, I mean that that person is valuable for me, that I admire him, that he is precious for me, that he exhibits the ideals the virtues I seek in a man, that I feel i am enlightened by happiness and pleasure when I am with him. And I know when I say that, I mean that, because My love is precious for me, it is not selfless, it is not waste, it exists!

Anyways, I read the article you have linked to on the topic -everyone is selfish. Agreed, but what are the implications? Selfishness is a virtue according to you, and maybe the only virtue you may respect. And you are justifying it by equating every action ever done by human beings to selfishness. Even if we agree to that point, you are yet to disclose one important aspect – So what?  When you say that every action even inadvertantly done by human beings is due to selfishness and nothing else, you sound more critical of the virtue of selfishness than being proud of it! Seeing that you are trying to propogate the virtue, this is a bit of contradiction.

“There is this thing in religion and politics – By convincing others, we try to convince ourselves” 

Destination Infinity

Loving is accepting the personification of the values which you admire and seek for.

Can you love a criminal? Yes you can, if that criminal possess certain characteristic or aspects which signifies the values you are seeking for, and if those values personified with that criminal are of much more worth for you than the fact that he/she is criminal.

You cannot love a person in whom you find nothing which can be appreciate or admired for. Also, you may simply despise a person irrespective of all qualities he posses which are important for you, just because of some distinct value which makes you despise that person.

It simply does not matter if the person you love, loves you in return or not.

You admire Bipasha basu, she is NOT going to be on your bed tonight. yet you love her, you may never get a chance to see/talk her face to face, yet you love her. She is not returning any love than why?

You do not love a person because you get love in return. You love a person because you find those qualities personified by that person which are important for you.

You admire Bipasha (if you do, or anybody whom you admire) because she possess your desired qualities in a girl/woman.

Love is always about the valuation and discrimination, it is as selfish as any activity of human.
That is all. Topic closed.

a> She loves singing, for her the value of pleasure she gets in singing is most important, she enjoys singing and she keeps trying to get better and better singer. Her love is selfish. For her, the popularity she gains is of lesser importance than her love for singing. That does not mean she does not love being popular singer. However, the intensities of the two loves differ.

b> She loves popularity, and for that, she sings. She loves singing but for her, being a popular singer is more important. She keeps a study of how to entertain audience maximum rather than how to improve her singing. She gains popularity. It is her selfish love. In this case, her love for popularity is more intense than her love for singing.

The live example is Amir Khan, for him acting is more important than popularity, hence he keeps trying to get best of his talent. He seldom goes for popularity; rather his love for acting is more intense. That provides him inspiration to do better and better.
On the other hand, Shahrukh Khan is Popular actor, he also loves acting, but the intensity of his love for acting is less than his intensity of love to be popular. He is popular actor. That explains why most of his movies gets instant popularity although they severely lacks intent.
There always remains certain actors whose intensity of love for acting is above any thing else. As for example, Smita Patil, Shabana Azmi, Aparna Sen, Naseeruddin Shah, Om Puri etc.. They work for their intensity of love towards acting. Its most important value for them. They seldom goes for popularity. Though sometimes, to fulfil the monetary needs, they changes their track towards commercial cinema too, as Smita patil worked in Namak Halal, Shabana worked in Amar Akbar Anthony etc.

The exceptional case is Amitabh. It is hardly difficult for one to check if his love for popularity is more, or love for acting is more. He maintains a coherent balance between his love for acting and love of popularity. Sometimes his intensity of love for acting goes higher, other times his intensity of love for popularity goes higher.

In all of such cases, you will find that none of them works only for love of money. That does not mean they do not love money, but their intensity of love for money is pretty less in comparative measure of their intensities for acting or popularity. Yet, you can find many artists who act just for their love for money. Acting and popularity means very less for them. You may put the actors of pornographic movies in this category. But it is not necessary that they work for love of money. You can find many porn actors just working for their love for sex and exhibitionism. Their intensity of love for money is pretty less than their intensity of love for exhibitionism and sex. After All how can we forget our beloved Paris Hilton?

P.S:: I was getting ready for my office hence my answer for the comments were a little haphazard and rash!